FEEDBACK

FeedbackTaking negative feedback can be daunting and frustrating for both the person giving it and the person receiving it. Sometimes negative feedback is “on point” and other times it is way off base. I have received feedback about the size of my breast in an academic setting. I was annoyed and aghast at those comments. I thought what does that have to do with anything? Over the years I learned a few pearls which have helped me approach the feedback process with less angst.

  • Be cautious of unsolicited feedback. Often times people who are not skilled, authorized or knowledgeable enough about the task at hand take it upon themselves to “give feedback” or “share their thoughts” about your actions and behaviors. This is extremely common in healthcare with random insinuations about how doing mundane tasks such as making their coffee in the morning “affects patient care” which by the way is the utmost way of “throwing shade” in the health care setting.
  • Feedback is just that; feedback. You can choose to accept it or reject it. Note that feedback does not lay down the law unless you allow it.  I personally keep an internal feedback system and consistently measure my current actions to my goals/ideals and I find mentors who can help me bridge the gap between my ideals and my reality. I focus on finding people I can trust to give me accurate, helpful and timely feedback. If I work with someone who gives me feedback, I always check the feedback received against my internal barometer which is mostly calibrated by my mentors in that setting and if the 2 are incoherent, I delete the feedback and move on. If the feedback is coherent, I make some changes, measure results and repeat that process until my ideals/goals become my reality.
  • Untimely feedback is useless: Telling me I sucked over the past 6 weeks at the end of the rotation when I can’t change anything is useless. This can be frustrating because you feel powerless about not being able to effect any changes that may help you grow in that particular setting. What I do in this situation is examine the feedback to see if I can apply it in other settings or future rotations. If yes, I do so promptly. If no, I document it for future review and I move on.
  • Giving feedback is a skill: In most settings, the people giving you feedback may not be skilled at it and it is important to give them feedback about how they themselves are doing with this process. Now don’t take this as your chance to “get back at them” or anything of the sort. Use it as an opportunity to pay it forward so that the next student or coworker has a better experience. Trust me, if you keep paying it forward eventually it comes back to you. It always warms my heart when I receive feedback from a prior evaluator who has taken the time to implement prior suggestions.

I hope these pearls help you deal with your next feedback session.

CONSISTENCY

CONSISTENCYI was recently introduced to some of Seth Godin’s work. If you have never heard of him, seriously you need to google him. One of the most thought-provoking ideas he discusses is making a commitment to share a new idea with your community every day as a gift to yourself and others. For him, that meant writing a blog every single day which he has done since 2002. He takes the idea of consistency to a new level. I have always considered myself a pretty consistent person but once I read his work. I felt compelled to “level up”.

Sometimes I question the value of my voice, my contribution or even the necessity of sharing “commonsense knowledge” which everyone else knows or should know. Other times, I question the value of doing “unproductive” work. Work without an easily calculated return on investment. What really is the value of sharing my most personal thoughts with a bunch of strangers and not-so-strangers online? Does it make a difference? Who cares? Seth Godin eloquently verbalizes what I have been stammeringly trying to articulate for years. The reason why we write and share and contribute is that we are really giving a gift to ourselves, our communities, our future. Nothing excites me more than gift giving especially when the person you are giving something to may not be able to return that favor right now or maybe ever. For me, that is when joy is the most sincere and pure. This new perspective allowed me to return back to my writing with renewed vigor. The idea that I can give a gift every single day and re-experience that joy of giving every single day is enough. Enough to keep me coming back to play, create, write, shape and dream and live narrative that far exceeds my wildest dreams.

 

European museums to return West African artifacts

By  on August 21, 2017 — There is a demand for the return of stolen artefacts to the continent. Over 3,000 bronze statues were stolen from the palace of the Oba of Benin, Oba Ovọnramwẹn Nọgbaisi after the British invaded the Benin Kingdom and killed its inhabitants by sending a punitive force of 1,200 soldiers.

The Benin Bronze was taken from the palace at Oba in 1897 Photo: buzznigeria

After many bronze artefacts were stolen from places such as the Benin Kingdom in what is now southern Nigeria and displayed in European museums such as the Ethnological Museum in Berlin and the British Museum, there is an ongoing plan to return them to where they were stolen from.

The Ethnological Museum in Berlin has the largest collection of art from the Benin Kingdom, followed by the British Museum. These collections were stolen during the reign of the Benin King Oba Ovọnramwẹn Nọgbaisi when the British burned down the Benin Kingdom, killed its inhabitants and looted the palace of the Oba of Benin.

Early last year, one of the stolen artifacts, a bronze cockerel known as Okukor,  that stood in the dining hall of Cambridge University was voted by the students under the Jesus College Student Union, to be removed and returned to Nigeria, from whence it was stolen. The bronze cockerel was one of the over 3,000bronze statues looted by the British during the Benin Punitive Expedition in 1897.

Read: Cambridge’s Jesus College students vote to repatriate looted bronze cockerel to Nigeria

Dr Michael Barrett, a senior curator at Stockholm’s Världskulturmuseet told the Guardian that returning the stolen artefacts is a way “this generation of curators . . . finds ways towards reconciliation.”

One of the major issues raised had to do with security arrangements and insurance costs, aside from the legal framework that would be established to guarantee that the artefacts aren’t seized in Nigeria.

The negotiation of stolen properties from Africa is one of the things African countries suffer despite the negative effects of colonialism. Sarah Baartman, whose body parts were exhibited in France at the Museum of Man for more than half a century only just had her remains returned to South Africa in 2002 where she was given a proper burial. These vestiges of colonialism are a testament to the savageness of the Europeans and a testimony to their attitude towards the continent and its inhabitants.

Read: UK citizen returns stolen Benin artefacts after 117 years

Considering the statements by Emmanuel Macron stating that Africa’s problem is civilisation, and also the depiction of African culture and civilisation to be primitive, it is contradictory that such artefacts of such quality which testify otherwise are still being kept in western and European museums.

At a time when the world is redefining its ethical stance on slave owners, and pulling down statues of colonial masters, this is the best time to also return artefacts, and stolen wealth taken away from Africa and carted to various colonial empires

GRACE, FAVOR & FAITH

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